So I told the hubs the other day that I’m considering getting my “tubes tied” as they say. The first thing he brought up was “well what if I died and you got remarried and your new husband wants kids?” Puh-lease. If that ever happened *heaven forbid*, I would certainly NOT remarry and just play the scene. And if I did remarry, too darn bad; the new guy would get me the way I am. So I ask him again, “what do you think about getting my tubes tied?” He thinks it’s too drastic and unecessary, but I don’t see him volunteering to get his snipped off!
Here’s the scenario though: The hubs says he’s done with the 2 kids (and he would’ve only considered a 3rd child had the first two been both girls). As for me? I’m not really sure. I think I would be down to have another child. But then I’m reminded of how darn tiring it is to care for small children (yes, even though I do know they grow up eventually). Plus, our house is small and we’d have to move out to a bigger place or renovate (something we’re considering regardless). At this point, I think having 2 kids is just right for us right now. The only other reason I wouldn’t get my tubes tied is that I would consider being a surrogate mother. Really. Don’t ask me at this point, but later on when I’ve recovered. But I’m just thinking out loud right now (and sharing it with the internet =).
So I thought I’d toss out this question for your consideration. Half of the people I talk to say yes, and half say “no, it’s too drastic.” I would just like to say for the record that I’m sick of being on the pill (or some sort of birth control) for about half my life now. I really don’t want to take any more hormones! So this is why I’m considering a tubal ligation or Essure. The other option I’m contemplating at this point is using Mirena. I don’t actually know any women who’ve used it, but the literature I’m reading is pretty informative and positive.
If you ask me right now, I can’t imagine being pregnant again. This pregnancy is definitely more tiring that the first. Yes, it’s because I already have a toddler to take care of, but it’s also because of work (trying cases while you’re pregnant is very, very draining) and just dealing with everyday stuff. I feel so much heavier than the first time and I really feel like the baby is coming out any minute now! I won’t even tell you have the stuff I have to deal with that I didn’t deal with the first time! Let me just say, I’m considering a scheduled-C just to avoid worsening the damage! 
Then again, I’ve always loved children and always considered the possibility of having a big family. The only thing stopping me is reality. Right now, I know we can’t support more than 2 kids and still enjoy and maintain the lifestyle we want for ourselves. We know our limits and we don’t want to stretch ourselves too thin. Others do bring up the point “well about down the line in a few years when maybe your circumstances have changed?”
Well, I still got time to think about it, I suppose.
